How to Have a Bulletproof Marriage
No matter what season we are in, it’s good to be reminded of how much our marriages matter.
You’ve probably seen bulletproof glass before. It looks just like any other pane, clear, ordinary, nothing special. But fire a round at it, and you’ll see the difference fast. It holds. It absorbs. It doesn’t shatter.
Now here’s the thing. There’s no such thing as truly bulletproof glass. The industry calls it bullet-resistant. It can take a few hits, maybe even several, but enough pressure from the right weapon, and even the strongest glass gives way.
Sound like any marriages you know?
The enemy is taking shots at homes all across this country. Some marriages are catching small-arms fire, little disagreements, petty frustrations, eye rolls across the dinner table. Others are under sniper attack, betrayal, addiction, and years of silence. And too many have already shattered.
So how do we build something that holds?
The prophet Amos asked a question worth revisiting: “Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” (Amos 3:3). Simple question. Profound answer. Two people can’t walk the same road if they’re headed in different directions. And marriage was never designed to be a 50/50 deal. That’s a contract. God designed it as a covenant, and a covenant is a 100/100 proposition.
A contract says, “I’ll do my part if you do yours.” A covenant says, “I’ll do my part and yours if I have to.” A contract draws a line in the middle. A covenant erases the line altogether.
That’s the first thing we have to agree on. Marriage is a covenant. Sealed not by a signature, but by sacrifice. Blood, sweat, and tears. Two people laying down their rights, their freedoms, their need to be right, on the altar of something bigger than themselves.
And then comes commitment. Real commitment. The kind that talks and listens, even when it’s hard. Did you know the average couple talks for seventy minutes a day in their first year of marriage? By year eight, they’re practically silent. That’s not a marriage. That’s a waiting room.
Communication keeps a marriage breathing. And conflict? Conflict isn’t the enemy. Silence is. Stubbornness is. The refusal to say “you and this relationship are worth the work.” That’s what cracks the glass.
So let me ask you today. Is your marriage bullet-resistant or bulletproof? Are you walking in agreement, or just walking in the same house? Are you keeping covenant, or keeping score?
Your kids need you to keep trying. Your home needs you to keep talking. And God? He’ll walk through every round fired your way. If you’ll let Him stand between you.
Don’t give up. Work at it. A bulletproof marriage isn’t one that never gets hit. It’s one that refuses to shatter.
Keep looking up!
Heaven is closer than you think.
May God bless your day.
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